It’s been an odd couple of weeks since my last post. It hurts my brain just to think about it!
1. Shaun and I went to my high school reunion. In school, we used to say that no one would show up to our reunion because our class lacked school spirit. Seriously, the student council didn’t give a rat’s ass and neither did anyone else. It was 1999 and we were all facing going into college or into the work force with little to no money.
There were maybe 50 people at the reunion and I did see a friend who I’ve known since kindergarten. We didn’t talk much in high school and I think I found out why. She made a passing comment while we were catching up that stuck with me. “Of course you’re doing well, you’ve always been perfect.”
I wonder how many people actually know that’s not true. I screw up as much as anyone, I just don’t tend to dwell on it or get caught in the downward spiral of screwing up. I’m not even an eternal optimist – I’m definitely not one of those smiley, cheerful people. It’s food for thought.
2. Sick kiddos. Actually, only one was sick. The other was faking it. A had a fever and just laid down and stared at the TV. Her school has had about 50 different viruses going through it, so we thought it was strep at first. It wasn’t so it may have been a UTI (just a very small amount of bacteria was in her urine) or it could have just been one of those flu bugs. She’s all better and back to her goofy, normal self.
3. Ramping up for the “anniversary effect” of the PTSD. A goes through the anniversary effect during October. It seems like every time she had to move foster homes, it was right around Halloween. That stuck with her. Last year was TERRIBLE so hopefully this year we’ll be prepared for whatever comes. I’m already stocking up on aromatherapy stuff and reinforcing the fact that she never has to go anywhere again. She’s home. She’s already started to panic a bit so we adjusted her morning medications and that seems to have helped. We’ve also briefed the school and we’re keeping on them about her mental state – it took a while to get them to take us seriously but now it seems like everyone is on board.
With LJ, we’ve just seen more sexual acting out. He retreats to this fantasy world inside his head and doesn’t seem to realize what he’s doing. It’s not regression – it’s more like he’s living in a fairy tale.
He’s been talking a lot about “grandmas.” His favorite kind of pie is the type grandmas make. Grandmas make sweaters. Grandmas take care of you and give you cookies. Grandmas have white hair, wrinkles, and glasses. Yesterday, I finally got fed up with it (in Goodwill of all places) and told him that he got his grandmas and they weren’t going to change. Neither grandma has white hair, neither one knows how to make a scrap of clothing, and one of them couldn’t bake a pie if her life depended on it. In reality, there’s no such thing as a “perfect grandma.”
I grew up without grandparents being an active part of my life. Neither set approved of my parents’ marriage and we most often just made it on our own. He did spend a lot of time with his bio-grandparents before he came into state care, so I don’t want to ruin those memories but he’s taking them a little too far. I don’t want him to get older and see them and realize how bad it was for him. They loved him – they just don’t have the skills to take care of themselves, much less a child!
We went through this a month or so after he moved in with regards to his bio father. It got to the point that I had to sit down with him and ask if he wanted to know the truth of the matter or just continue to believe what he did of his dad. He said he wanted the truth, so I told him. I may have to enlist my dad to explain it to him. My dad’s childhood is very similar to LJ’s and they have this great bond. I think he’d take the truth better from Dad than from one of us.
4. Sick mommies. It’s been odd – very odd. My grandma was sick for a bit, then my great-grandma passed away almost a week ago. Then grandma went down to FL to bury g-gma next to g-gpa and she got back yesterday. My sister has been sick and my mom was for a little bit but recovered very quickly. Then a couple of days ago I started having a fever and today my throat feels like I swallowed some hot sauce. I must have gotten that strep that was going around. *sigh* So, tomorrow I’ll go to the doctor and get more antibiotics. I’ve only been off the antibiotics from the surgery for a week!
5. Flooding. Lots of it. We live northeast of Atlanta and thankfully in the foothills of the Appalachians so our land is soggy and puddly, but we didn’t get any water inside the house. Thank God! Even 5 miles away houses were destroyed and the traffic accidents have been terrible. We went to an antique store yesterday – it’s about 7 miles from our house – and on the way home saw two accidents happen. My heart goes out to everyone that lost their homes, cars, and in some cases, families.
6. Big internet sales! Since we’ve been home bound from the sick babies and the flood, I’ve been on the internet a TON. We’ve sold a couple of pipes, sent some lace to Japan, mailed out 6 books on bookmooch, and I’ve started uploading a ton of stuff to flickr. I’m working on a pipe resource, so hopefully I’ll have that available soon. I also want to get some pipe related merchandise up in the Etsy shop, but I’m missing my computer parts. I’m spending time with a hard drive clock today.
7. Got LOTS of fabric. I love Goodwill. Seriously. I got a ton of fabric for an average of 30 cents a yard and I also got some bed sheets and pillowcases that I can use. I found some gorgeous blue eyelet cotton that I was SUPER excited about. Got some corduroy, some raincoat material, a ton of cotton, and some linen. It’s going to be fun!
This has been a long, long post lacking in cohesiveness, so I’m going to end it here. Hopefully I can pick this blogging habit back up so I don’t end up with 300 things going on at once. Good times!