I can’t believe we’re less than 3 weeks away from school starting. May and June were crazy months and thank goodness we’ve been able to have a quiet July. My goal in July was to bore the crap out of the kids so that they’d be excited to go back to school. I don’t think it’s worked yet… they seem happy to sleep in until 9 am, hang out in pj’s, and watch PBS.
I found out yesterday that the charter school Alyssa will be going to did get their pre-K charter. I called up and they had lost Ethan’s paperwork (not surprising since his name dramatically changed with the adoption) but they did go ahead and put him on the waiting list. It would be the best possible thing for him to be able to go to pre-K there. Otherwise, I’m going to homeschool him during pre-K. He’s one of those kids that does not do well in a normal school environment. He’s not quite ADHD like LJ is but if there are other kids around who are not focused, then he won’t settle. His brain works a lot like mine – he absorbs info, files it away as irrelevant at the moment, gets bored, then creates trouble. So, I’ll file his paperwork with them today so that hopefully he’ll get in soon.
For Alyssa to get admission, I had to register her under her old name during the last school year. There are only a certain number of spots available and it’s further broken down by the child’s primary language. It’s a dual-immersion English/Spanish school and they also teach Mandarin Chinese. Hopefully it will challenge her enough to keep her out of trouble. Pre-K for her was like a lesson in futility. She already knew EVERYTHING they were teaching the other kids (she’s on a 1st grade level) and decided that meant everyone else was stupid and she was therefore in charge. With some kids, they do that and get this air of bravado and adults think “he’s going through that arrogant stage.” With her, she really does believe that we’re all here to serve her and suggesting otherwise does not compute. Of course, she is smart and beautiful which means people DO line up to give her things. She had talked her teachers into giving her 3 lunches a day, THREE!, letting her roll around in the dirt during recess, taunting other children, and basically acting like we will not let her act at home. It’s all ok with them because she’s cute and smart and gives you those big green puppy dog eyes. All this does is reinforce the thought that she’s a superior being stuck in a smaller body. Or something.
There’s a reason my kids act like civilized human beings. I don’t fall for the BS and I have no fear of saying no. I don’t use fear or intimidation to keep them in line, they just know the expectations and they know I’m not going to back off of them. This does mean we talk a lot about the meaning of words like upset, disappointed, unhappy, discussion, responsibility, and who is in charge. We can actually eat a meal in a sit-down restaurant with the kids.
LJ will be going to the school across the street from us. He didn’t get accepted into the charter school, and that’s probably for the best. He didn’t walk or talk until he was 5 and he’s still behind in language and social skills. Because he was non-verbal, his test scores showed that he was mentally retarded and he was held back a grade and stuck in special ed. There’s nothing wrong with that because he did need to learn the basics but he has made so many strides since then that you’d never guess he wasn’t always “normal.” He was in a regular class last year and recieved speech therapy and social skills therapy several times a week. This year, he’ll still receive services, but they’ll be integrated into the class so he doesn’t get singled out or pulled away from class.
I really hope he gets a young, active teacher this year. Last year we had all sorts of trouble with his teacher. He needs someone interactive – not someone who hovers and scowls. Doing that puts him on defense and he retreats into his fantasy world. Then everyone who wants to play ball during recess is stealing his stuff and every time someone bumps into him in line means they’re deliberately trying to knock him down and get him into trouble. This causes meltdowns and tantrums. Then he’s scared to go back to class because he knows that’s not a “good reaction” so he does stuff to get sent out of class. Things like picking his nose until it bled so he could go to the nurse’s. Making himself throw up. Stomping on another kid’s foot.
When we figured out what was happening, we started playing games at home during homework. When learning was a happy thing and he felt safe doing it he immediately started getting better. He was making 30’s and 40’s before we started and after he was getting 90’s and 100’s. Still, we couldn’t convince the teacher that he’s not a bad kid – he’s a scared kid. She didn’t see anything wrong with her methods and would tell me “I have 20 kids in that classroom!” 20? Really? That’s all… huh. That’s a TINY class.
Anyways, I have to register all three for school today since their names, birth certificates, and social security numbers have all changed. So I need to get them all ready to go while I fill out the paperwork here. Thank God that it’s all online and all I have to do is print it out.
I also need to run to the post office. We made a sale on Etsy! Yay! I also had a book mooched on BookMooch, so I need to send it out. After all that, we’ll be back home and do lunch, then they get naptime and I get to list some more lace on Etsy. If I get a chance, I need to go out in the garage and get a coat of primer on the keys. Shaun’s going to do the metallic paint for me since he’s got a steadier hand and has more experience with oil-based enamels than I do. I also need to clean the bird cage, our bathroom, and my workstation.
The kids are up and the boys are already in trouble, so it sounds like time for breakfast! Have a happy Tuesday, everyone!